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Many parents have gone from helicopter parents to lawnmower parents. Instead of preparing the child for the path, we prepared the path for the child.
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The Learning to Rise process is about getting up from our falls, overcoming our mistakes, and facing hurt in a way that brings more wisdom and wholeheartedness into our lives.
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The reckoning is as simple as that: knowing that we’re emotionally hooked and then getting curious about it.
instead of being affected by our emotions without any self-control, or ignoring them, or taking them out on someone else
How do we recognize that we’ve been snagged by emotion? From the wisest part of us—our body. We call emotions feelings because we feel them in our bodies—we have a physiological response to emotions.
I define calm as creating perspective and mindfulness while managing emotional reactivity.
In the absence of data, we will always make up stories... The first story we make up is what we call the "shitty first draft"
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In our SFDs, fear fills in the data gaps. What makes that scary is that stories based on limited real data and plentiful imagined data, blended into a coherent, emotionally satisfying version of reality, are called conspiracy theories.
A confabulation is a lie told honestly. To confabulate is to replace missing information with something false that we believe to be true.
Try to write down:
Questions to ask:
What more do I need to learn and understand about
The power of “the story I’m telling myself” is that it reflects a very real part of what it means to be a meaning-making human. It’s disarming because it’s honest. We all do it. This is why it works across diverse environments and with all people.
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We're almost at the end of the book!
To finish we need to cover Offloading strategies, and the Story Rumble onwards.
We'll also discuss our final impressions of the book, and choose a new one.
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