Add support for HDF5 to sdist/wheels

[bryanwweber]

Changes proposed in this pull request

• Build Python sdist and wheel using scikit-build-core
  • scikit-build-core will find system libraries in appropriate places because it uses CMake for configuration
• Enable building with HDF5 support
• Enable building the PythonExtensionManager (I think this is new?)

:construction: TODO: :construction:

• [x] Refactor SCons* so that system_packages are enabled (right now they're forced to be disabled, but we don't need our private copies anymore)
• [x] Refactor SCons* so that scons sdist doesn't run unnecessary system checks
• [x] Include files from Eigen and built libraries from SUNDIALS are installed to the wheel, that shouldn't be happening
• [x] We don't need to package pyx files in the wheel, or cythonized cpp files in the sdist any more. Check that this is correct
• [ ] Figure out license packaging requirements (I don't think we need to package anything except the Cantera license for the sdist, but the wheel may require dependency licenses)
• [x] Get it working with the sdist/wheel builder workflow repo
• [X] Decide if we need to install cmake and/or ninja with the build.system-requires table (see https://github.com/scikit-build/scikit-build-core/issues/806). We do not need to do this because I was wrong about when cmake is installed.
• [x] Resolve this performance warning:

  CMake Warning at C:/Users/runneradmin/AppData/Local/Temp/tmp61vecodi/build/_deps/sundials-src/cmake/SundialsBuildOptionsPre.cmake:85 (message):
  SUNDIALS is being built with extensive error checks, performance may be
  affected.

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Closes Cantera/enhancements#205

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• [x] The pull request includes a clear description of this code change
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• [x] Build passes (scons build & scons test) and unit tests address code coverage
• [x] Style & formatting of contributed code follows contributing guidelines
• [x] The pull request is ready for review

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[bryanwweber]

@speth I think I addressed everything here :smile:

[bryanwweber]

Thanks @speth! Good suggestions :smile: