I used to think that the worst thing is to be dependent on someone. I wanted to be independent and never depend on anyone. I thought it would keep me safe. After all, I decide everything myself and all my problems are only mine. But now I have radically changed my position and I think that attachment is absolutely normal and it has much more advantages. In the real world, few people achieve everything on their own and alone. Being addicted means getting something of value from another person and not wasting your resources on it.
I wanted to be independent because I didn't have a significant adult as a child. I was afraid to depend on someone, to trust, because next to me there was never a person who could understand me. I thought I was the only one who could survive, because being dependent on people hurt me. Those whom I trusted as a child betrayed me. That's why I decided that depending on someone is dangerous and bad.
I thought adult meant self-sufficient and independent. The image of an invulnerable and fearless warrior who alone stands in the way of life's dangers and hardships.
Man is not just a social being, but needs a special close connection with others.
I used to think that the worst thing is to be dependent on someone. I wanted to be independent and never depend on anyone. I thought it would keep me safe. After all, I decide everything myself and all my problems are only mine. But now I have radically changed my position and I think that attachment is absolutely normal and it has much more advantages. In the real world, few people achieve everything on their own and alone. Being addicted means getting something of value from another person and not wasting your resources on it.
I wanted to be independent because I didn't have a significant adult as a child. I was afraid to depend on someone, to trust, because next to me there was never a person who could understand me. I thought I was the only one who could survive, because being dependent on people hurt me. Those whom I trusted as a child betrayed me. That's why I decided that depending on someone is dangerous and bad.
I thought adult meant self-sufficient and independent. The image of an invulnerable and fearless warrior who alone stands in the way of life's dangers and hardships.
Man is not just a social being, but needs a special close connection with others.
Attachment theory: https://ru.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/%D0%A2%D0%B5%D0%BE%D1%80%D0%B8%D1%8F_%D0%BF%D1%80%D0%B8%D0%B2%D1%8F%D0%B7%D0%B0%D0%BD%D0%BD%D0%BE%D1%81%D1%82%D0%B8#:~:text=%D0%92%20%D1%80%D0%B0%D0%BC%D0%BA%D0%B0%D1%85%20%D1%82%D0%B5%D0%BE%D1%80%D0%B8%D0%B8%20%D0%BF%D1%80%D0%B8%D0%B2%D1%8F%D0%B7%D0%B0%D0%BD%D0%BD%D0%BE%D1%81%D1%82%D0%B8%2C%20%D1%82%D0%B5%D1%80%D0%BC%D0%B8%D0%BD,%D1%81%D0%BD%D1%8F%D1%82%D1%8C%20%D1%8D%D1%82%D1%83%20%D1%83%D0%B3%D1%80%D0%BE%D0%B7%D1%83%20%D0%B8%D0%BB%D0%B8%20%D0%B4%D0%B8%D1%81%D0%BA%D0%BE%D0%BC%D1%84%D0%BE%D1%80%D1%82%C2%BB.