When a user initiates a private conversation the window of the conversation only opens to the receiver and not to the sender, only after the receiver user replies that the window for the sender opens.
This is a limitation for our Client IRC (Hexchat) there's no way around to change it in the hexchat config.
One approach would be to send the message also to the sender but this would cause duplications.
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When a user initiates a private conversation the window of the conversation only opens to the receiver and not to the sender, only after the receiver user replies that the window for the sender opens.
tip: Send the IRC message to both users involved