Add the option to use SM for P2P comm in TP overlap

[erhoo82]

Description

Add an option for SM-based P2P send/recv in TP communication overlap.

Type of change

• [ ] Documentation change (change only to the documentation, either a fix or a new content)
• [ ] Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• [x] New feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• [ ] Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing functionality to not work as expected)

Changes

Please list the changes introduced in this PR:

• Add an option to select between CE- and SM-based P2P send/recv in TP communication overlap by use_ce.
• Update the argument names in userbuffer interface to avoid naming conflicts

Checklist:

• [ ] I have read and followed the contributing guidelines
• [ ] The functionality is complete
• [ ] I have commented my code, particularly in hard-to-understand areas
• [ ] I have made corresponding changes to the documentation
• [ ] My changes generate no new warnings
• [ ] I have added tests that prove my fix is effective or that my feature works
• [ ] New and existing unit tests pass locally with my changes

[erhoo82]

Thanks @timmoon10. Updated the suggested changes.

[timmoon10]

/te-ci pytorch

[erhoo82]

@timmoon10 I think the paddle build failure is unrelated issue?

[timmoon10]

/te-ci pytorch