Add startupProbe to deployments with healthchecks

[golyalpha]

Added startupProbe to deployments with healthchecks, replacing initialDelaySeconds.

Additionally made startup probes configurable (periodSeconds and failureThreshold can be set in values.yaml), and added a fallback to initialDelaySeconds if startup probes are disabled.

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