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Went well
Could have been better
Open questions/points
Was anything documented for folks that weren't able to attend? Edit - check the company-internal repo with anything tagged offsite
I was really pleased with this offsite overall.
What went well
Walking the line.
Hackathon
The 360 feedback gave me some useful things to improve.
The first day was pretty cool - I liked doing a mild hike and the blue lagoon was good fun.
Hotel was comfortable.
Buses went in straight lines!
I liked having a more detailed view of the stuff we want to build next. This will be handy when talking to investors/customers in future (even if we don't necessarily stick to it!)
Last night
Somehow it felt very low stress / easy to prepare for it. Previously this has been much harder. Grace managed to really own it.
What could have been better
The buffet meals got a bit repetitive by the end. That said, I think not having to wait around for service in restaurants was much better than not doing this. I also preferred buffet to table service for the same reason - feels more natural / conversation flows better.
Got really hungry during day 1 of the hackathon. Maybe we should organise food to just arrive in future.
Not sure I'd pick a cold weather place again. I missed having a pool and a little sunshine, but it was cool to try somewhere different.
(So far) haven't done great at communicating to those not there, but I wouldn't want to compromise session quality by trying to have 2 way communication with people that can't attend - the whole point is to be present / not to feel like we're in a zoom meeting.
Lots of issues with attendance, meant some people couldn't come that'd have benefited greatly. The majority were unavoidable, but we had two passport issues - a mini check on this well in advance would be a tiny tweak next time that could save someone else a problem.
To me, everything went well with one exception. I was skeptical that a hotel would be a good venue for us, but it worked perfectly and Grace & Charles did a fantastic job with organisation.
The exception is the cross the line activity, which I have very strong feelings about. I recognise it was well-intentioned and isn't something we plan to repeat, but I ultimately found it harmful, divisive and inappropriate. I wanted to explain why in a bit of detail, as it's been a frequent topic of discussion since.
As this is a public issue, I'll refrain from mentioning any individuals specifically but I am willing to have a longer discussion on this privately.
Why was this activity harmful for me? For me it bought up a lot of deep-seated emotional topics and traumas which I then felt I had to reconcile alone, needlessly. We were asked to confront/expose issues such as suicide, domestic violence and sexual identity, but without help moving forward afterwards. No counselling was available and we were in a strange environment away from usual support networks such as friends, families or therapists. The debrief was very limited and I purposefully chose to stay silent because I felt discussion of my feelings -- which were of intense shame, sadness and isolation -- would exacerbate them and create further division for myself and others. This activity also complicated feelings following the 360 feedback session and left me feeling unable to be fully present for the rest of the offsite. I dread to think what a worst possible case could have been for people with deeper mental health struggles.
Why do I feel this activity was divisive? Because the activity was done in silence and without an appropriately structured debrief meant I felt it separated everyone into binary groups and cliques. A takeaway comment for me was from one (again, well-intentioned and kind) co-worker admitting that they had to consciously walk-back judgement of others. I didn't feel we were closer afterwards; I felt we were farther apart and that (because of, for example, the political lines drawn and managers present) it may not even have been safe for me to disclose some things. I don't feel entirely safe sharing this feedback either. The format prevented me from giving context and, while we were advised beforehand that stepping forward is voluntary, this overlooks the fact that not stepping forward create as much a division as doing so. I chose to be 100% transparent, but a question toward the end of the activity made it clear that not everyone did the same, so now I trust my co-workers less than before.
Why do I feel this activity was inappropriate? Many of the topics which came up would have been illegal if they had been asked in an interview or other context. It would not be appropriate for me to ask any of my colleagues (let alone ones I'd only ever met once, if at all) if they'd ever had suicidal thoughts, so I don't feel it's appropriate to ask all of us those questions. I disclosed that I had previously questioned my sexual identity, for example. There's context to this; but why should I feel pressured to share it in the workplace? The risk of conflict for individuals and the company are also numerous. What do I do if I disclose I'm a divorced atheist who has questioned their sexual identity and my manager is a right-leaning Christian? Should I now worry about how this will affect my performance reviews? If I'm dismissed badly tomorrow, can I cite this as cause and bring action against the company? What are managers expected to do with the information they discover? I'm still not sure why we felt this activity was useful or what we hoped to gain. Our values explicitly say we are 'a team, not a family'.
Again, I know the activity may have been well-intentioned, but I'd strongly urge us not to run activities like this again without serious consideration of the need for it and the impact on individuals. It's taken me several days of holiday (during which I've felt unable to fully disconnect) to start feeling better and while I don't believe it's going to impact my work when I return to 'the office' tomorrow, it certainly impacted my offsite experience.
I should also add that I LOVED the hackathon. It was a lesson for me, again, in how I personally get and spend energy -- the hackathon was something that really lifted me up and has me hugely excited for the future of the product.
Went well
Iceland was a really unique place to host an offsite, and will definitely be a selling point for candidates who check us out
I felt that the schedule was a good balance between sessions, free time, and fun activities
The Fosshotel was a good choice for a couple of reasons
The coach bus to and from the Volcano and the Blue Lagoon was super smooth and timely
I thought the Blue Lagoon was a solid team outing with very little planning or overhead on my part
@lottiecoxon really pulled out all the stops on merch, certificates, and the banner; it made the whole event feel special
Doing session reviews before the offsite was helpful in ensuring a high level of quality
Food and drinks at Lebowski bar were really good
I thought the Careless Whispers activity was really well-received and it was great that folks contributed to envelopes for people who couldn't make it
I really enjoyed @joethreepwood DJing during the hackathon
Could have been better
Iceland is the third most expensive country in the world, so we definitely spent a lot more on this offsite than we would have somewhere more reasonable. It was also freezing cold and was a disincentive for folks to leave the hotel
I didn't find Reyjavik to be a very engaging city to explore
I wish the Fosshotel would have been more transparent about Haust being the same buffet night after night; had I known, I definitely would have had us dine elsewhere for a number of the meals
Yoga was pretty poorly attended, and I think we should consider whether something like this is worthwhile next time (or look within the team to see if someone is willing to facilitate)
It was probably unnecessary to buy so many snacks from Costco in addition to the snacks we bought through the hotel
Getting merch into Iceland is a nightmare; would be worthwhile to see if we can ship to teammates and have them check boxes on their flights rather than trying to ship to our destination (I did this with the hats and scarves and paid $0 duty)
We should find a way to have non-technical folks engage more deeply with the Hackathon, or plan an alternative activity for them
We should book all offsite flights as refundable/with cancellation insurance, especially during COVID, as I'm sure we lost a lot of money on late drop-offs
Buying FlyBus tickets ahead of time was a bit of a mess due to late cancellations; we probably should have bought them upon arrival individually to save costs
Reflecting deeply on @joethreepwood 's Cross the Line feedback, this was a huge learning moment for me, and I think we could have avoided some of the negative fall-out from the activity through the following:
The layout of the Lebowski bar was quite weird, and not very conducive to a 30 person group
A primer on how Jeopardy works would have made the activity run more smoothly, and I should have been more thoughtful with the question categories and teams to even the playing field a bit. Prizes would have also been nice to offer
I think having a running quote wall would have been a nice passive activity
The Hedinn restaurant where the app/platform team went was a lot fancier and more expensive than I expected
Echoing above, we should have pre-planned food during the hackathon
I was unaware that Lyft/Uber aren't in Iceland, and should have checked this ahead of time
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Here is the budget round-up.
@postgrace the above link is accessible to anyone - is that expected?
@yakkomajuri I defaulted to keeping it public for transparency, but if someone has concerns with that let me know and I can make the link only accessible to the teamn.
Very nice!
Please include your feedback for the offsite in this issue!