[cmake] bump VG kit, BTAS, and MADNESS tags

[evaleev]

• refresh VG kit to include several linalgpp fixes
• refresh BTAS to pull in https://github.com/ValeevGroup/BTAS/pull/166
• refresh MADNESS to pull in https://github.com/m-a-d-n-e-s-s/madness/pull/507

[wavefunction91]

@evaleev This works on systems with lib64 even without updating Umpire - I think its g2g