fix(dev): unbreak build

This change fixes the build and includes the following improvements:

Move to Debian Bookworm because that is the release that includes OTP 25 out-of-the-box, which is required by main.
Use a "slim" base image.
Update SpiderMonkey to 78 and make it possible to build the image natively on arm64 (such as Apple M1).
Avoid explicit pip3 install because that is not endorsed by Debian packaging. The Python package versions available in Bookworm shall suffice.
Remove installation of extra FoundationDB packages — they seem to be gone, which breaks the build for every platform.
Bump Node.js to 18, the latest recommend version. This is also included in Bookworm. Base the installation of NPM and Grunt on Debian packages.
Chase changes in the configure script.

apache / couchdb-docker