update pyproject.toml for new ruff requirements

[braingram]

Description

ruff now requires that select and extend-ignore be in tool.ruff.lint. This PR updates pyproject.toml to satisfy this new requirement.

Checklist:

• [ ] pre-commit checks ran successfully
• [ ] tests ran successfully
• [ ] for a public change, a changelog entry was added
• [ ] for a public change, documentation was updated
• [ ] for any new features, unit tests were added