[FIX] fix InetAddress compile, and use getaddrinfo instead of gethostbyname_r

[Simonhancrew]

@chenshuo

cpp17, compile issue occurs

muduo/muduo/net/InetAddress.cc:50:35: error: expected primary-expression before ‘,’ token
   50 | static_assert(offsetof(sockaddr_in, sin_family) == 0, "sin_family offset 0");

my gcc version

gcc (Ubuntu 11.4.0-1ubuntu1~22.04) 11.4.0
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This is free software; see the source for copying conditions.  There is NO
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And InetAddress::resolve use gethostbyname_r, maybe we should use getaddrinfo instead

[ggandycong]

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