Closed urschrei closed 11 years ago
As a (non binary) trans* person who plans to attend, I think this should be linked elsewhere or in the code of conduct, like all other issues from race to disability are.
That said, the current code of conduct does not have anything about this issue and I'd really like our code to include it. (in fact, people misgendering me makes a space unsafe)
I think it is important that some more specific codes(for example, dealing with disabled people) are linked or possibly $issue 101 posts if anyone has them?
We're trying to err on the side of brevity in the current code of conduct, rather than a comprehensive list of how to behave and act. (Note: I'm not going to close this issue, this is important)
The problem with enumeration of good and bad behaviours is that it is endless. If we can find a good and succinct way to capture this and related problems, i'll be happy to merge :-)
Edit: I think linking to these issues is probably the best course of action. We don't have the space for nuance.
Proposal: Links to good quality best practice guides on issues, in their own page or section, as recommended reading for organizers, and as an opportunity for people to educate themselves if they want, and somewhere to point people if they really do muck up unintentionally.
Reasoning: We can't educate someone in how to be a perfect ally to every cause. It is impossible, and made more so by our restrictions, and also not our mission.
We do, however need to have somewhere we can point people at when they misgender me, call somone a bitch, or make a racist comment. And it would be nice to have it on the computer website so we're not accused of being SJ warrior feminazi furries. (not that anyone attending would do, but people act weird when called out.)
Organizers need to be a bit hotter on their issues however: when someone comes to them and says "x did y", they need to know why y is bad, how bad it is, and how they can help.
Also: it allows oppressed groups to work their own issues out, and we don't have to check every thing we write: we just grab posts written by the group.
@drcable I agree with you on pretty much everything, but don't feel equipped to add anything succinct and I don't know of a great resource to link to. Can you give us some suggestions?
+1 for resources for organisers, especially being more thorough or detailed +1 for adding something about your behaviour might be called out, so you should listen, etc
I think having more complete resources for organisers is a great idea
This(pdf) was recommended to my on disability, and covers a lot of the ground. this is my preferred trans* 101, though you may find it a bit aggressive. Anyone else non-cis want to chuck something in the ring? Or cis people who've had something recommended to them? Race wise, I simply have no idea, and these posts are really long. We really need better resources. Proposed topics list:
(plug: If any LG people are reading this, QUILTBAG101 would be a decent thing to link to, but we're missing feedback from you for your section (and no, It's not dead.))
I have a bit of experience with this from efforts to make a roller derby league more inclusive–am digging through stuff for good (and concise) linkage.
I don't know how deeply we want to get into explaining trans* 101, but we could say something like:
Don't harass people. Don't make exclusionary jokes. Don't even make them "ironically". Use person's preferred pronoun (if you're unsure which one to use, ask).
I think that's great for the actual policy as a brief reminder.
linkage for organisers would still be handy, though?
On 30/09/13 11:32, ntlk wrote:
I don't know how deeply we want to get into explaining trans* 101, but we could say something like:
Don't harass people. Don't make exclusionary jokes. Don't even make them "ironically". Use person's preferred pronoun (if you're unsure which one to use, ask).
Reply to this email directly or view it on GitHub: https://github.com/computeranonymous/computer/issues/67#issuecomment-25350806
A bit more general: "Don't make assumptions. Don't assume peoples gender(or their preferred pronouns), sexuality, abilities, or what is damaging to them. There are few wrong questions as long as they are respectfully asked."
Thomas Walpole, Maker drcable.org @drcabl3 drcabl3.tumblr.com
On 30/09/13 11:32, ntlk wrote:
I don't know how deeply we want to get into explaining trans* 101, but we could say something like:
Don't harass people. Don't make exclusionary jokes. Don't even make them "ironically". Use person's preferred pronoun (if you're unsure which one to use, ask).
Reply to this email directly or view it on GitHub: https://github.com/computeranonymous/computer/issues/67#issuecomment-25350806
agree. The trouble is you need to much changing to be able to act safeley towards people- because "normal" is so hostile.
Thomas Walpole, Maker drcable.org @drcabl3 drcabl3.tumblr.com
"Don't assume person's gender (or their preferred pronouns), sexuality or abilities." <- would be more concise way to express it that I think still captures the spirit
On 30/09/13 11:51, ntlk wrote:
"Don't assume person's gender (or their preferred pronouns), sexuality or abilities." <- would be more concise way to express it that I think still captures the spirit
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@ntlk
"Don't assume person's gender, their preferred pronouns, sexuality, abilities or anything else personal. If in doubt ask respectfully."
I think the asking is important, and as is the "anything else". Because ours are not the only issues.
Thomas Walpole, Maker drcable.org @drcabl3 drcabl3.tumblr.com
"Don't assume person's gender, their preferred pronouns, sexuality, abilities or anything else personal. If in doubt ask respectfully."
I think this covers a lot, but I'm thinking we can refine this a little more
On 30/09/13 16:25, tef wrote:
"Don't assume person's gender, their preferred pronouns, sexuality, abilities or anything else personal. If in doubt ask respectfully."
I think this covers a lot, but I'm thinking we can refine this a little more
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This was just going in the PR. Not a lot I can think to cut?
Thomas Walpole, Maker drcable.org @drcabl3 drcabl3.tumblr.com
Is there a reason we aren't saying "a person's"?
Open a PR for this line, we'll refine it in there.
We've got something in the rules now, Closing. Open a new issue with refinements.
I'd like to propose a brief section about pronouns in the code of conduct. Maybe something like "Please don't assume that everyone would like to be referred to as 'he' or 'she' – respect people's choice of pronoun, and if you're unsure, ask."