V3.3.1 and less upstream patching

[timostrunk]

Checklist

• [x] Used a personal fork of the feedstock to propose changes
• [x] Bumped the build number (if the version is unchanged)
• [x] Reset the build number to 0 (if the version changed)
• [x] Re-rendered with the latest conda-smithy (Use the phrase code>@<space/conda-forge-admin, please rerender in a comment in this PR for automated rerendering)
• [x] Ensured the license file is being packaged.

I recreated #150 (adapt patches and raise version and switch to libarrow) and dropped the second patch, because arrow < 10.0 is apparently not built anymore. The first patch is also simplified, because all arrow versions being built are c++17 compatible.

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[timostrunk]

Closes #150