High-ROI Mindsets

[darwinrlo]

Introduction

In my experience, in the family or in the workplace, the majority of wrongdoing rarely involves malice. Typically, it's either honest oversight or the perpetrator (often understandably) wasn't able to foresee how their actions would affect you. At worst, it's selfish and inconsiderate; nonetheless, even in these cases, you are a casualty as opposed to specifically being targeted.

[darwinrlo]

Conclusion

Though malicious wrongdoing is infrequent, it doesn't mean it isn't impactful. In fact, the times or situations malice is truly involved could be life-changing. For example, seemingly paradoxically, love is rampant with malice: This is why they say all is fair in love and war. But this is for a different discussion.

[darwinrlo]

In the family or workplace, anger, frustration, and disappointment are rarely productive emotions. When they occur, either in yourself or others, it is important to handle them with compassion and skill. But if they happen frequently, it is a sign of a mindset that is unsuitable for the environment you are in -- and it is better to address the problem consummately by fixing the mindset that generated these emotions in the first place.

(Above, I am much more specific about what emotions I am talking about. I am also specific about what situations I am talking about.)