Upgrade dependencies

[hugojosefson]

This builds upon https://github.com/deepstreamIO/deepstream.io/pull/1134 by @daanh432, which uses Node.js 18. In this PR, I upgrade (almost) all other dependencies, for security, and for trying to stay up-to-date.

For some dependencies, such as typescript v4 → v5, the amount of things to fix after such an upgrade was too great for me at the moment, so I stayed on the latest minor version I could successfully upgrade to.

Some minor, and some major, version upgrades to dependencies required small updates in code, which I included in each such upgrade commit together with the dependency version bump.

I successfully ran this command, at least after every major version upgrade commit, and at the end:

npm install \
&& npm run lint \
&& bash -euo pipefail ./scripts/tsc.sh \
&& npm test \
&& npm run e2e -- --fail-fast \
&& npm run e2e:uws -- --fail-fast \
&& bash scripts/package.sh true true \
&& node scripts/node-test.js \
&& node scripts/executable-test.js

That way, I feel confident this should work.

I have also tested the major upgrade of commander manually with the built executable ./build/deepstream, to make sure it sees the start command as the default and chooses the correct command when given another one.

I updated one test to make it work correctly in both Node.js 18 and Node.js 20, because the error message it checks for, becomes longer and more specific in Node.js 20.

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Build is green on my fork's GitHub Actions: https://github.com/hugojosefson/deepstream.io/actions/runs/6591970600

[jaime-ez]

Awesome, I'll check the change and leave some comments

[hugojosefson]

Thank you @jaime-ez for taking the time to review and merge this!

[jaime-ez]

Thanks @daanh432 and @hugojosefson for your PRs! Awesome to see some actual work on the project from others. new release will be available soon, please test and inform any issues.

Cheers