One of the tenets of my philosophy is to be unabashedly clear with my friends. I don’t “like my friends for their faults”. I like them for their inner selves, and point out the faults I see.
Sometimes, this can backfire. Instead of helping them, you shut them down during their moment of vulnerability. It happens when I speak in absolutes. It comes as a surprise, and does not accomplish anything.
This is a subtle reminder for myself, to remember how important the delivery is. Keep the other person in mind, empathize, and say it well.
One of the tenets of my philosophy is to be unabashedly clear with my friends. I don’t “like my friends for their faults”. I like them for their inner selves, and point out the faults I see.
Sometimes, this can backfire. Instead of helping them, you shut them down during their moment of vulnerability. It happens when I speak in absolutes. It comes as a surprise, and does not accomplish anything.
This is a subtle reminder for myself, to remember how important the delivery is. Keep the other person in mind, empathize, and say it well.