TRAFFIC-4937 add server startup config to allow incomplete EDS response

[ysun-2023]

race condition may happen in ADS mode, cluster can be removed from envoy-control when envoy asks for EDS response.

Since the cluster is not in the snapshot, envoy-control will not respond envoy with EDS response and these clusters will be in warming status forever.

So we add allowIncompleteEdsUpdate server startup config to allow ADS server to respond incomplete EDS response.

[codecov-commenter]

Codecov Report

Merging #287 (a605540) into main (01ae359) will decrease coverage by 2.81%. The diff coverage is 63.63%.

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- Coverage     86.13%   83.33%   -2.81%     
+ Complexity      352      349       -3     
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  Files            41       42       +1     
  Lines          1154     1176      +22     
  Branches         95       97       +2     
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- Hits            994      980      -14     
- Misses          115      145      +30     
- Partials         45       51       +6     

Impacted Files	Coverage Δ
.../io/envoyproxy/controlplane/cache/SimpleCache.java	74.40% <45.45%> (-3.66%)	:arrow_down:
...o/envoyproxy/controlplane/cache/TestResources.java	100.00% <100.00%> (ø)
...n/java/io/envoyproxy/controlplane/cache/Watch.java	100.00% <100.00%> (ø)
...oxy/controlplane/server/DefaultStartupConfigs.java	100.00% <100.00%> (ø)
...olplane/server/DiscoveryRequestStreamObserver.java	66.66% <100.00%> (-18.34%)	:arrow_down:
...nvoyproxy/controlplane/server/DiscoveryServer.java	89.36% <100.00%> (-1.55%)	:arrow_down:
...oyproxy/controlplane/server/V3DiscoveryServer.java	87.50% <100.00%> (-6.25%)	:arrow_down:

... and 1 file with indirect coverage changes