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Quotes I found to create for affinity map
This is why we can’t just say, take out the trash. When you look at the list to teach there’s a lot to, taking out the trash, properly. Imagine if your child followed these steps, taking out the trash would run a lot smoother in your home for everyone.
Everyone needs to take out the trash well. It’s a simple thing once you can do it but go to any college flat share and there are some suspect bins.
Each option has their pros and cons and by trial and error since this is a learning opportunity each family finds their level for each contribution.
Reconnect in a fun and meaningful way so that these contributions have the high expectation of success without the regular nagging and everyone has the chance to deliver because we all know what to do and are competent. Training.
Those four words your children should not be afraid to ask before a task: Show me how again.
http://growingnimblefamilies.com/contribution-magic-words
Those are some of the best memories that I have. My daughter and son I taught to wash clothes at age 9. It is just like teaching, they learn colors, what water temperature and measurements. I think the biggest thing is at 7 they can still see it as a game and not work. :)
Makes them feel good knowing that they can do something by themselves.
It makes them feel like they have their own little job to do everyday. It builds independents
https://www.care.com/c/questions/3288/are-things-like-helping-around-the-home-and-taking/
What I did was ask them how to make it so they do remember. This way it's not like I'm blaming them or forcing them into anything but I'm telling them that it's important to me that you DO remember. Since they're coming up with the solution, the onus is also more on them :/
Key traits: Loved that the trash could be portable/easy-to-move "I just roll our single can 70 meters from our garage to the street, once every two weeks."
Like to keep track of their chores/ remember what they have to do. "What I did was ask them how to make it so they do remember"
Make it fun and entertaining. "Those are some of the best memories that I have. My daughter and son I taught to wash clothes at age 9. It is just like teaching, they learn colors, what water temperature and measurements. I think the biggest thing is at 7 they can still see it as a game and not work. :)"
"Makes them feel good knowing that they can do something by themselves."
"This is why we can’t just say, take out the trash. When you look at the list to teach there’s a lot to, taking out the trash, properly. Imagine if your child followed these steps, taking out the trash would run a lot smoother in your home for everyone."
"Everyone needs to take out the trash well. It’s a simple thing once you can do it but go to any college flat share and there are some suspect bins."
"Each option has their pros and cons and by trial and error since this is a learning opportunity each family finds their level for each contribution."
"Reconnect in a fun and meaningful way so that these contributions have the high expectation of success without the regular nagging and everyone has the chance to deliver because we all know what to do and are competent. Training."
Key features to consider:
Redo for key traits/ grouping
Those who don’t like doing chores
It's not that it's difficult, really, but it is pretty tedious. It also depends upon an individual's tolerance for clutter and/or filth. Traditionally, I'm pretty happy to live in a pile of books and papers, because that doesn't bother me, but I'm pretty fastidious about the kitchen and bathrooms because leaving those places out of order produces what is, to me, actual filth. I've met people who blow a gasket if their books are shelved incorrectly. It gets to a point where personal preference comes into it.
I think I hate housework because I'm not really producing anything, I'm just working to maintain a certain condition of my household. I have 4 stepchildren whom we have full custody.. 17, 15, 14, 11 and I have a 2 1/2 month old.. I do go to work as a server 2–4 days a week right… like everyone said it's just tedious and annoying especially if you are doing a bunch of savages, laundry and dishes, and picking up after… especially in my situation because i feel these kids are old enough and capable of doing their own stuff. They do to an extent but it's usually having to fight them to do it, which is mentally exhausting in and of itself. And I love all my kids to death which is why I do it…But like most people say there's no joy to it. I, myself, hate to do housework, It’s boring and repetitive. So, instead, I pay a woman to come in every week to clean my place. She gets an additional bit of income, and I don’t have to bother. To me, that’s worth it.
Those who like doing chores
I love doing my household chores, specially cooking and cleaning. It gives me satisfaction and happiness. Being busy, I normally source out my cleaning task . During lockdown, I have only two jobs cleaning and cooking. I do out of my happiness. I can't breathe in messy house. Housework is the ultimate in visible, concrete outcomes. You can see the change you made, and it’s so satisfying. So, for the most part, yes, I like doing housework.
Those who prefer doing chores alone
I’m a bit adhd so I start doing one thing then skip to another and pretty soon I’ve got quite a few things started but none finished. Yes the fix for it is speed which since I’m already in opiates they won’t give me speed obviously to get my mind right… So I’m probably better off alone so that nobody else gets all confused about what it is I’m doing. I have it all going right in my mind, but finishing what I started is hard!
I prefer to do the work alone and it bothers me when other people are home while I’m cleaning because they get under my feet. So I will wait until my husband is at work and my daughter is at school to do the housework. Alone, headphones in my ears and listening to music that makes me want to move! The music motivates but also helps block out any distractions, both external and internal.
Those who prefer doing chores with assistance
Those are some of the best memories that I have. My daughter and son I taught to wash clothes at age 9. It is just like teaching, they learn colors, what water temperature and measurements. I think the biggest thing is at 7 they can still see it as a game and not work. :)
Those who like doing only some chores
I love laundry. I love the timed repetition of it— every thirty minutes I trek down the stairs to the laundry room with a basket of dirty clothes, switch everything around, and trek back up with my basket full of clean, nice-smelling clothes. I stand at my bed and I fold everything carefully, placing it in drawers as I go. Then I wait. Then thirty minutes has passed, and I do it again. There’s something so comforting about laundry. Plus, I have clean clothes when I’m done, which is a tangible bonus. I do not like taking out the garbage, however, I remove the bag from the trash can and wow there’s a hole and now my floor smells like 5-day old coffee.
Similar to the class example from 2/28