fix(core): Improve service option usage and method option typings

[daffl]

This pull request tightens up the handling of service options and makes sure the methods option only allows valid service method names

app.use('myservice', new MyService(), {
  methods: ['get', 'finds'] // Will type error if `finds` does not exist
})

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