[v11.0.x] scenes: update to v4.14.0: opt-in to

[darrenjaneczek]

Backport 5b424ed6bb0bf8f3494d2c74e5d18ce9880512d8 from #87244

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With updating the scenes library, dashboards must now explicitly opt in to useQueriesAsFilterForOptions. We want to ensure we opt into this all the time for the new scenes dashboards. We do not want this behavior for certain scenes apps, like "Explore Metrics"

Updating the library to require opt-in for useQueriesAsFilterForOptions fixes a bug in "Explore Metrics" which prevents the adhoc filter varible from being able to select keys and values once the sample panels in the select metrics scene have been initialized.

Depends on:

• https://github.com/grafana/scenes/pull/713

Special notes for your reviewer:

Please check that:

• [ ] It works as expected from a user's perspective.
• [ ] If this is a pre-GA feature, it is behind a feature toggle.
• [ ] The docs are updated, and if this is a notable improvement, it's added to our What's New doc.