Adapt to Python 3.13 low-level monitoring C-API

[sklam]

Feature request

From https://github.com/numba/numba/issues/9753#issuecomment-2422988754, Numba needs to adopt the C-API for monitoring.

Implementation hint at:

• https://docs.python.org/3.13/c-api/monitoring.html#monitoring-c-api
• https://github.com/python/cpython/issues/111997#issuecomment-1903698585
• https://github.com/cython/cython/pull/6144