support az aware hashring and multiple sts in one hashring

[christopherzli]

What changes are proposed in this pull request?

1. Support az aware hashring in Thanos v0.32+ https://thanos.io/tip/components/receive.md/#az-aware-ketama-hashring-experimental
2. supported multiple sts in one hashring
3. Update dependencies including golang version, along with bingo and golangci-lint version, and fixed all lint tests

   How is this tested?

   main_test.go, Make thanos-receive-controller https://github.com/observatorium/thanos-receive-controller/issues/127

[christopherzli]

tested it worked when scale up 1 node, the configmap updates the configmap too: