Allow dynamically linking to Arrow libs even when building with static linking

[robomics]

Introduce a new build knob HICTK_WITH_ARROW_SHARED to force dynamic linking to the Arrow libs even when BUILD_SHARED_LIBS=OFF.

This is mostly needed to workaround a segfault that occurs under very specific conditions due to (I think) ABI incompatibilities.

The segfault occurs when the following conditions are met:

• Project is built on Windows using a very recent version of MSVC (e.g. 19.40.33813.0)
• hictk is statically linked to arrow (the lib version does not seem to matter)
• hictk is included by a third-party project
• The third-party project dynamically links to arrow (again the lib version does not seem to matter)

The segfault was observed while developing hictkpy (see https://github.com/paulsengroup/hictkpy/pull/56 for more details).

Notably, the segfault is triggered upon calling hictkpy::PixelSelector::to_df(). However, for some obscure reason, this only happens for certain queries.

Running the same queries directly from hictk through the C++ API does not result in a segfault (nor does it raise any error when building hictk with ASAN).

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