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6 years ago Hi, the question is the hardest part to Table Topic Master. But it is also the most attractive part.
this scenario is very common in our life. I think it's could be more hard and tough than that. That will be more exciting to the audience. and the thing could be more specific.
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first question: some reason to work overtime -> too much work to do but your boss asked to deliver it tomorrow morning.
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the third question: you requested your partner to do something -> you requested your wife/husband to take care of the baby
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Too much noisy question but your colleagues are talking aloud about personal things and laughing - > but your colleagues are talking aloud about the housing price.
4.Using Harsh Words on Others Your colleague misunderstood your requirement and produced useless working results -> the member in your team misunderstood the user requirement. But he just told you after one month.
That's all my suggestion. Hope to more tough questions from you. see you tomorrow !
主题：Conflict in Work
Table Topic 环节是怎样的？
主持人：Darwin Wu
引导词：In our daily life, all of us have been encountered with some kind of interpersonal conflicts. Some of them are small and easy to manage, while others are big & challenging, which might take our precious time and energy to deal with. Sometimes I wonder is there any way to totally avoid conflicts? Or, at least some way to turn big conficts into smaller ones?
In today's table topic session, we are going to talk about "conflicts", either in your family, your office, your college, or in public places... You can choose a type of question and we will do role playing games. I will be standing here to facilitate your role playing. Each of you will have about 2 minutes to express your ideas.
Now, before we start, let me make my point clear, there're no correct answers to these questions, just think over it and say something about it.
Table Topic Questions
Family Scene
参考链接 1
Work Overtime #gtd
You had worked overtime for 2 days in line. Today your boss asked you to deliver a report before tomorrow morning, so you have to work overtime again. Your husband/wife is angry and speak to you (on the phone): "you never come back on time, which one is more important to you? work or me?!"
What would you reply?
suggested answer: “I feel unimportant to you when you work overtime and don’t text me.”
Differ in Mood #gtd
You have just enjoyed an interesting short video on WeChat, and asked your partner to watch with you together, but your husband/wife behaves impatiently and replies: "Okay..okay! I've seen it. Totally nonsense! A waste of time. Could you leave me alone?"
What would you reply?
suggested answer: “So, you feel like you can calm down and relax best by yourself, is that right?”
Confusing Expression #gtd
One day, you requested your husband/wife to clean the dishes right now, but he/she refused and said something like: "I've had enough of this! Don't you see I'm busy now? Could you give me more space?"
What would you reply?
suggested behaviour 1: Ask for clarification. "Space" could simply mean more time and room to think things over.
suggested behaviour 2: When something is bothering you, address it asap. Don’t spend time by yourself guessing over the reason.
Office Scene
参考链接 1
Too Much Noise
You want to focus on your email writing, but your colleagues are talking aloud about gossip news and laughing, totally ignores your situation. You hope they could keep quiet.
What should your say?
Suggested Answer: “I’ve overheard a lot of your private conversation. I don’t want to overhear these things, but your voice are too loud!”
Using Harsh Words on Others
You are a project manager, one your subordinates in your team misunderstood your requirement, when she/he deliver the wrong results, one week had passed. You felt very upset and said "You are so stuipd! how could you be wrong on such simple task?" But later you regretted doing so.
What would you say?
Suggested Answer: “I’m sorry for having said those hurtful things. I was upset, but it wasn’t right of me to blame you like that.”
Different Ways to Do Things
You are experienced in your project work, one day you need to collaborate with another new colleague, who wants to do it in her/his own way, but you are not sure whether his/her new way will work as smoothly as usual.
What would you do to ?
Suggested answer: “Let’s sit down and discuss the options that we have. Together we can identify the best approach to this assignment.”
Urgent & Extra Work
You are a project manager. One day you were required to submit a important project progress report by midnight that day. It had to be done with the help of your subordinate. But there was only 1 hours before the end of office hour.
What would you say to this subordinate?
Suggested Answer: “We really need to submit this report by midnight tonight. I know you don’t want to work overtime, but it's impossible to get it done before 18:00. What if you work for two extra hours today, and you can either come in two hours late or leave two hours early on tomorrow?”
College Scene
Lights Off Time #gtd
You want to go to sleep at around 9:30pm, but your roomate keep playing computer game and produce lots of noise until midnight(with the overhead lights on), totally ignoring your needs. You feel annoyed and want to let your roommate know.
What would you say? And when would you say it?
Suggested Answer 1: After the roommate finish playing, tell she/he that “I have trouble falling asleep when you playing in the room. Next time, could you check if I'm sleeping before playing computer game?”
Suggested Answer 2: Setup rules like “Put on earphone after 9:30pm, turn off the overhead light and put on table lamp, stop making noise, etc.”
Suggested Answer 3: Apply for a room change
Cleaning Duties
You like keeping the dorm clean and neat. But one of your roommate often ignore others and drop trashs everywhere, but don't clean it for her/himself. You want to let the roommate pay more attention to her/his own duties.
What would you do to solve this problem?
Suggest Answer: draft a cleaning schedule for everyone in the dorm. And wait until everyone is in dorm, hold a roommates' meeting to discuss this.
Public Scene
Jumping the Queue
You are standing in the end of a queue waiting to order railway ticket, but someone come here in a hurry and stand in front of you without any words.
In this case, what would you say to her/him?
Suggested Answer: “Excuse me, but I believe I was waiting in line before you.”
Naughty Children
You are having dinner with your friends in a restaurant, but there are children's laughter & crying noise from the nearby table. They even running around tables and make you disturbed.
What would you do in this situation?
Suggested Answer: Slowly walk to the children, and lower down your body and told them secretly: “Hi, little friends! Do you know we are playing a game called ‘Talking Quietly Around The Table’? When you talk too loudly, the foods will be unhappy and give us BAD taste!”