planner: UPDATE's select plan's output col IDs should be stable (#53268)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #53268

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #53236

Problem Summary:

The output UniqueIDs in the UPDATE's SELECT plan should remain unchanged after the optimization.

What changed and how does it work?

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Side effects

• [ ] Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• [ ] Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• [ ] Breaking backward compatibility

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• [ ] Contains syntax changes
• [ ] Contains variable changes
• [ ] Contains experimental features
• [ ] Changes MySQL compatibility

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