[NF4] Various bugs in how NF4 handles `.to()` to move to a different device

[gau-nernst]

Reproduction

import torch
from torch import nn
from torchao.dtypes.nf4tensor import to_nf4

x = torch.randn(1024, 1024)
x_nf4 = to_nf4(x)
print(x_nf4.cuda())  # this will dequantize NF4 -> unwanted
print(x_nf4.to(device="cuda"))  # this will raise error
print(x_nf4.to("cuda"))  # this will do the right thing

# .cpu() does not move .nf4 to CPU, because call_from_inner_tensors does not call the method on .nf4
x = torch.randn(1024, 1024).cuda()
x_nf4 = to_nf4(x).cpu()
print(x_nf4.quantized_data.device)  # cpu
print(x_nf4.nf4.device)  # cuda:0
print(x_nf4.to(torch.float32))  # error due to device mismatch

# not working with nn.Module
linear = nn.Linear(1024, 1024)
linear.weight = nn.Parameter(to_nf4(linear.weight.detach()), requires_grad=False)
linear.cuda()  # NF4 weight is not moved to CUDA
# linear.to("cuda")  # same problem

print(linear.weight.device)  # cuda:0
print(linear.weight.quantized_data.device)  # cpu
print(linear.weight.to(torch.float32).device)  # cpu

Summary:

1. NF4Tensor.cuda() will dequantize -> this is unwanted
2. NF4Tensor.to(device="cuda") will raise IndexError, since args[1] does not exist
3. NF4Tensor.cpu() does not move .nf4 attribute -> cannot dequantize
4. Does not work with nn.Module.to(device)

• IMO, the semantics NF4Tensor.to(torch.float32) will dequantize is the culprit that causes these troubles + it is not consistent with AQT behavor. If .to(dtype) does not dequantize (only change appearance dtype), we only need to implement aten._to_copy instead of Tensor.cpu, Tensor.to and myriad of others. Though I understand this design is to make NF4 feels more like a true dtype.
• I think it makes more sense to designate NF4Tensor.dequantize() as the method to dequantize the tensor (also consistent with plain Tensor behavior, though plain Tensor.dequantize() will always return FP32), instead of the current situation (NF4Tensor.dequantize() is a static method for lookup table, while NF4Tensor.get_original_weight() does dequant)
• Changing this is BC, so we probably leave it as is.