Add python 3.12 build along with various fixes

Fix a static initialization order dependency in stim_benchmark
Remove stim_benchmark from make install
Rearrange marker ordering in sinter to defer the time until visually ambiguous case occurs (in both color and shape)
Fix X axis only applying to first subplot in a sinter plot, instead of all
Bump pybind version
Add python 3.12 builds

quantumlib / Stim