backport "fix: use more reliable close event"

[avimar]

Backport e183e5d87435f73baa83024e937a0bcddf807757 to enable v6 branch of restify to work with nodejs v16 and up.

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• Issue #1899

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[avimar]

This fix is not working for me in node 18. Any other changes that I need to make?