(chore): change boolean settings names to use `should`

[ilan-gold]

Since this is coming in 0.11 I think we should change these to use should verbs at the front. I like verbs in front of booleans because it makes clear what they do. Otherwise, I would just close them and leave them both as the action without should

• [ ] Closes #
• [ ] Tests added
• [ ] Release note added (or unnecessary)

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