chore: clean dns code

[DmitriyMV]

Split from #9596 (without IPv6 stuff). This PR does this things:

• Refactored DNSResolveCacheController. Most of the logic moved to dns package types. Simplify and streamline logic.
• Replace most of the goroutine orchestration with suture package.
• Support per-item reaction to the dns listeners/servers failing to start. This allows us to ignore IPv6 errors if it's disabled.
• Support per-item reaction to the dns listeners/servers failing to stop.

[DmitriyMV]

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