[bugfix] Update home timeline query to ignore exclusive list entries

[tsmethurst]

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Follow up to https://github.com/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/pull/3280

This PR updates the home timeline db query so that entries from exclusive lists are ignored when building up the timeline for the first time. Should address https://github.com/superseriousbusiness/gotosocial/issues/2616#issuecomment-2340861928

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