Make mysql use the native rust tls stack by default

[optimumtact]

This removes the dependency on libssl, which is one of the few remaining dependencies that it has beyond libc

This is a major version bump because there may be some inconsistencies with the tls certs suported by rustls

https://docs.rs/mysql/latest/mysql/#ssl-support

You can opt back into the native stack if you so choose

[optimumtact]

can anyone explain to me why cargo is ignoring the updated cargo lock file for the windows build?

Or more accurately, why is the windows build locked while the linux ones are not?

[ZeWaka]

heh I had a branch for this but got busy, will review soon

[AffectedArc07]

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