feat: support setting defaults

[michaljelonek]

Description

• implements with_defaults that allows setting include, exclude, matcher and extension_class
• changes internal of use_extension to use with_defaults, functionally unchanged

Related Issues

Closes #800, subsequent asserts seem to ignore the matcher.

Checklist

• [x] This PR has sufficient documentation.
• [x] This PR has sufficient test coverage.
• [x] This PR title satisfies semantic convention.

Additional Comments

Unsure what extra tests to add, but it seems like there would be benefit in more. Coverage seems to be at the same percentage.

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