Support SQL MERGE for jdbc connectors

[chenjian2664]

Support Ignite MERGE:

• [x] Support DELETE in IGNITE
• [x] Support UPDATE in IGNITE
• [x] Support MERGE in IGNITE
• [x] Update Ignite support version
• [x] Update oracle test container version to 18.4.0-full
• [ ] Unexpected Join over for-update table scan
• [x] Postgresql get logs from container OOM
• [x] Add merge behavior check in delete with varchar predicate tests

[chenjian2664]

wait https://github.com/trinodb/trino/pull/16693 to be finalized

[mosabua]

Ongoing work is now happening at https://github.com/trinodb/trino/pull/20532 .. we are working on getting this reviewed and merged.