[release-21.0] Use proper keyspace when updating the query graph of a reference DML (#17226)

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Description

This is a backport of #17226

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Codecov Report

All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests :white_check_mark:

Project coverage is 67.51%. Comparing base (b2645cd) to head (1254d68). Report is 1 commits behind head on release-21.0.

Additional details and impacted files

```diff @@ Coverage Diff @@ ## release-21.0 #17258 +/- ## ================================================ + Coverage 67.49% 67.51% +0.01% ================================================ Files 1570 1570 Lines 251389 251389 ================================================ + Hits 169672 169721 +49 + Misses 81717 81668 -49 ```

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