bug!: fix updateCount handling

[dirkbolte]

• introduce a pseudo-transaction which writes updates when a request ends
• introduce a transactionManager for this
• move locking to transactionManager (and remove some unneeded locks)
• update tests as the updateCount is only increased once now

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