Bump dependencies, upgrade to stable otel, remove node_id metric

[whs]

• Upgrade all dependencies, including Go
• Upgrade to stable Otel
  • Metrics name may change due to Otel changes
  • Remove internal gRPC integration and use otelgrpc instead. Currently otelgrpc do not provide metrics for streams.
• Remove node_id metric (already ignored in our Prom) as it has very high cardinality and not really used.

[skrityak]

lgtm