ENH: Fix cuda storage transfer deadlock on multiple GPUs

[luweizheng]

Fix storage transfer deadlock of CUDA storage on multiple GPUs. I do this work based on https://github.com/xorbitsai/xorbits/pull/488

The current implementation of the transfer function leads to a deadlock when executing Xorbits on multiple GPUs. The issue arises from the StorageHandlerActor.fetch_batch function, which invokes SenderManagerActor.send_batch_data and subsequently calls StorageHandlerActor.request_quota_with_spill. Due to the locking mechanism within the StorageHandlerActor method call, a deadlock arises.

NOTEs:

• fix dead lock on GPU
• fix GPU buffer size 0 issue
• test on TPC-H SF10 and it works. Much faster than Dask-cuDF.
• known issue: test_transfer_gpu.py of ucx channel has bugs while socket channel works.
• known issue: too many actor calls in this implement. May lead to performance down.

Check code requirements

• [x] tests added / passed (if needed)
• [x] Ensure all linting tests pass

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Project coverage is 52.76%. Comparing base (a3af71f) to head (77cf425).

Files	Patch %	Lines
python/xorbits/_mars/services/storage/handler.py	15.27%	61 Missing :warning:
python/xorbits/_mars/services/storage/transfer.py	22.22%	14 Missing :warning:

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