Revert "MotionPlanningDisplay: always update query states"

[nyxrobotics]

~This reverts commit d98a529a28ffe9bc283abe70828388a5b5b48c59.~

Import upstream from origin.

Description

Fixed CPU usage increase after running rviz for a long time

• fix #8

Checklist

• [ ] Required by CI: Code is auto formatted using clang-format
• [ ] Extended the tutorials / documentation, if necessary reference
• [ ] Include a screenshot if changing a GUI
• [ ] Document API changes relevant to the user in the moveit/MIGRATION.md notes
• [ ] Created tests, which fail without this PR reference
• [ ] Decide if this should be cherry-picked to other current ROS branches
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[nyxrobotics]

Officials have fixed it and this is what we will use. #3478